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Re: Nate

• Posted by Hawke <mdeland at NWINFO.NET> Oct 06, 1998
• 498 views

Robert Craig wrote:
> I don't plan to do anything further,
i think i speak for nearly everyone (if not everyone, indeed)
when i say that not only have you done a considerable
amount (far and above what i think most expected) towards
resolving this, but I (we) would like to extend heartfelt
gratitude and appreciation for your help and your actions
in this quite bitter business.

on a purely personal note, i believe that you handled
the situation perfectly correctly.  some have cried
for blood, vengence and legal action directly against
nate.  the first two are quite inappropriate, obviously.
the last becomes a twisted dilemma.

nate being a minor means that his parents would be facing
legal issues, not nate.  alternatively, if nate was
actually forced to stand in a court for this affair,
and found liable, he would goto juvenile detention.

taking nate away from his parents in that manner,
i do not believe to be the best solution. i'm speaking
as a father here.  nate would not be given decent
guidance as to the error of his ways whilst surrounded
by others that are likely far more degenerate than he.

also, i don't believe that forcing nate's parents to
defend legal actions to be the answer either.
had nate's parents not done anything in response to
rob's informing them of their son's misdoings, then
i would say all bets are off, and don't bother grabbing
any boxing gloves.

so to those that feel that informing his parents
was 'lame', i would ask you to reconsider.  although
it may seem that nate's parents have not done a 'good
job', i daresay they actually have.

question 1:
how many of you on this list, that are adults now,
never, *ever*, commited a wrong that got brought to your
parents?

question 2:
how many of you remember that fatefull ringing of your
doorbell, watched with ever growing eyes of fear as your
parent(s) held that ever so stoic "adult" talk with another
adult (likely another parent), watched in utter disbelief
as your parent(s) actually said "thank you for letting
me know that they did that, and don't worry, i'll have
a talk with them later", (god! they actually said
"thank you" for that), and began feeling your heart
beat through your chest as the door slowly closed
behind this bearer of news and your parent(s), now
alone with you, turned in that ever so deliberate,
ever so adult way, slowly around to face you.

interesting, it looks like more fall into the latter
category, than the former.  is that a drop of sweat
forming on your forehead from rememberance?

if any of you still hold malice, due to your loss of
(yes i understand it could have been critical and
extremely monetarily valuable) data, try to be like
the kind elderly couple whose extremely valueable
plate glass window your baseball smashed.

i think there has been enough bad on this list,
lets focus on being kind, forgiving, and peacefull,
just like that elderly couple was the next day,
when they offered you a new baseball and fresh baked
cookies.

take care all, and care of, indeed.
you've all seen me say it a thousand times.
let's all try to live it now, ok?
it's easier to be peacefull than vengefull.
--Hawke'